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To the Other Woman

I hope you enjoy your Christmas this year because this will be the first time in 33 years my dad will not be with his kids on Christmas morning. I suppose he'll be spending it with you and your family, instead of sitting comfortably in his recliner, in his home, wrapped in his robe, quietly observing the Christmas chaos around him.

He won't be there to find the Phillips screwdriver to open the toys or run downstairs to search for the right size batteries. He won't be there to sneak in the refrigerator to grab a candy strawberry from the bowl or eat all the sausage balls right from the baking sheet. Instead we will fit in some time to visit him at his new house, conduct the gift exchange and try not to notice the awkwardness in the room.

But you know what, that's OK, because we certainly got the best part of the deal - my mother. She is the most kind, patient, loving Christian woman anyone could ever know, and she's going to have a fabulous Christmas this year, even without her husband. She's getting extra presents under the tree and lots of love from her kids and grand kids, so much so that we'll all forget about the old traditions and start new ones.

So this Christmas, you may have my dad, but know that he is secretly wishing to be with his own kids and grand kids instead of with you.

Merry Christmas and happy new year.


  1. w- i'm sorry that you have to go through all of that this year. your family will be in my prayers. stay strong.

  2. Wow, that is terrible. I hope your family is still able to have a happly holiday. HUGS.

  3. I hope that you have a happy holiday despite this.

  4. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now.

    I pray that you and your family are able to celebrate the holidays together focusing on the reason for the season, and that your Mother feels the love and support of you guys this year.

    May God bless you, and I hope your father realizes all he has lost and how his choices affect those that care most for him.


    my heart goes out to you.

  5. I am so sorry that this has happened to your family! Y'all are in my prayers!!!

  6. I am so sorry that you and your family are having to struggle with this right now. I can't imagine! You will be in my prayers.

  7. I'm terribly sorry your family is going through this. I hope your holiday season is still wonderful! Y'all are in my prayers!

  8. I commend you for writing this post! Good for you!

    I hate this for your family and I will keep you all in my prayers.

  9. Your mother is a lucky woman to have a daughter like you! Hope your new traditions are fabulous and fun! Merry, Merry!!!

  10. You get used to the whole Christmas with only one parent thing... none-the-less, I hope it won't be too hard for you! Make new traditions and enjoy them!!! Christmas only comes once a year!
    Merry Christmas!!!

  11. I love honesty. :)

    In seriousiness, it is awful you have to deal with this at Christmas, but I'll be praying for lots of grace and peace for everyone!

  12. I think you put that very eloquently. And the other girls are right, your mother is very lucky to have you!

  13. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. It sounds like you have a good perspective on the situation and that you'll be able to give to your mother who will need you. I hope it is a wonderful Christmas day!

  14. UGH, I am just so sorry. Thank goodness your mom has you all. She is very blessed amongst sadness. I wish you a Merry Christmas full of new traditions and lots of love. xoxo

  15. Oh gosh- so sorry. My parents were divorced when I was really little because he had an affair with my best friend's mother along with a multitude of other reasons. He never remarried but was very absent from our lives. EXCEPT on holidays, when he'd just SHOW UP ont he porch and knock on the door. For years my mom let him come in and be with us, but she eventually got fed up with his twice-yearly attempt to be part of our family. And every single year I would be sick to my stomach thinking he'd show up because I so dispised him thinking he should be included when he chose to be absent so much of the time. I hope things turn out OK for you's hard when family stuff like this happens. And you're so right about your MOM! I love mine with all my heart.

  16. I'm sorry that your family has to go through this. If my father did something like that . . . I don't think he would ever hear from me again. For all the other woman knows, he might not even HAVE a family, but for a dad to choose that . . . wow.

    Your mom is a tough cookie :)

  17. I am not sure you will get this. I don't know about blogs, but I applaud you for this letter. You have every right to say this to the "other woman" in my opinion.

    You mom is a wonderful lady and did not deserve this treatment from your dad. I have known them both since around 1972 and your dad before then, and this happening was the furthest thing from my mind. It all shows that the "other woman" can have a great influence on someone if they put their mind to it.

    Hope you and your family, esp, that sweet little Walker have a wonderful holiday and New Year.


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